I just went to a friend’s wedding. Instead of jumping for joy that someone else was joining the club, though, my husband and I found ourselves thinking, “oh, no. They have no idea what they are in for.” I shouldn’t be such a pessimist. This particular couple is incredibly compatible. But, there have been a string of divorces in my
Read moreYes, folks, here she is. The inspiration for countless posts, the coiner of the term Sneak-a-Date, and clearly the person with the smallest ego on this blog. The one, the only, Katie! Except, I guess technically with Dennis, there were two Katies. Anyway. I was the first, and I think that should count for something. Now, I realize that all
Read moreWhen it comes to sexuality, many people believe that humans are unique in the animal kingdom: we feel love, we’re psychologically complex, we form long-term monogamous bonds. Well, science calls shenanigans on our idealism. According to scientists, the similarities we find between animals and humans actually reveal some of our most basic instincts, and monogamy isn’t necessarily one of them.
Read moreAll my life, I’ve been looking for that guy—the one I can tell anything to, the one who totally gets me. The guy who is handsome and charming, with a gorgeous smile. We can talk all night, but we don’t always stay up just talking. I can curl up in his arms, feeling loved and contented, as my mind slips
Read moreWe get lots of generic advice when we break up. “You’ll get through it.” “You’re better off.” “Don’t worry, you’ll find the One.” But no one ever tells us how to get through the pain, the loneliness, the emptiness. Whether the breakup is mutual, shocking, brutal, or civil, it sucks. So what do we do? Blast “I Will Survive” until
Read moreI have been happily married for two years to a man I know is not the One. Why? I do not believe there is such a thing as the One. The One is just a myth perpetuated by the media. Am I to believe that there is one person out there for me? One person to be my other half, to make my life complete, to spend forever with? Yeah, right!
Read moreMy friend has embarked on the noble journey of making himself into the “Perfect 10.” He figures that if he wants to date a woman he considers the ultimate match, he himself needs to be a perfect 10. Everyone has their own idea of who their optimal mate is. My friend wants someone who is confident, sexual, financially-stable and many
Read moreAs the cliché generalizes so succinctly, breaking up is hard to do. Especially when you don’t know if it’s the right decision…. I would like to announce that I just experienced the most civil breakup in the annals of breakups. Seriously, if Gandhi and Mother Theresa had been an estranged couple, they wouldn’t have done a better job. It was
Read moreFriendship. It’s so many wonderful things. It’s caring. It’s affection. It’s laughter and inside jokes. It’s also the last bastion of the freshly dumped. After all, how many breakup conversations include the phrase, “can we just be friends?” So why do we go along with such a “request”? Are we that desperate? Do we get so attached that we’re willing
Read moreI’m not here to sell anyone on musical theatre. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions. That being said, when presented with show tickets, be aware! The secrets of the female mind are hidden in music, harmonies, and plot-driven-lyrics. Never fear, for all will be revealed to you over the two- to three-hour course of the show (plus intermission).
Read moreA few months ago, I posted some easy ways to make your relationship stronger. They were simple and not too taxing, right? But now it’s time to talk about those dreadful things like: Introspection Personal responsibility Seeing past your own anger Yikes! How un-fun is that? Because, really, how can anyone be expected to do these things when our partner
Read moreFrom an early age, we are bombarded with messages of romance and fairytale endings. Disney has this down to a science. From Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty to Snow White and Ariel, our heads are filled with the idea that someday our prince will come, there will be a “foot-popping” kiss, and we’ll live in happily-ever-after bliss. After many frogs kissed, we may start to wonder, “where is my prince?”
Read moreWith Valentine’s Day coming up, it’s time to think about more than just romantic love.
Read moreI don’t think a romantic relationship can succeed without those butterflies, without feelings of excitement and quick heart beats. Yet, having feelings for a person is no guarantee there’s a chance for a romantic relationship either, even when the feelings are mutual.
Read moreThis is a personal story of what not to do on your honeymoon. Never, under any circumstances, lose your spouse’s wedding ring.
Read more“They make it look so easy,” or “I bet they never fight,” or my favorite, “she has the perfect guy.” We’ve all said that, right? Well, let’s get a few things straight: 1. Relationships are not easy. 2. Everyone fights, it’s normal and healthy, and it actually makes your relationship stronger. 3. No one has the perfect guy (or girl).
Read moreHe was so dreamy that I fell hard and fast. I must have hit my head really hard, because I continued to put up with all the games in return for the promise of LOVE. Love makes you do some crazy things, and it surprises you when you are least expecting it.
Read moreWomen like all the warm-and-fuzzy, let’s-keep-all-the-keepsakes, walk-down-memory-lane stuff. Not that I find this invaluable by any means. Women are just better at it. What are men better at? Well, in general, random stupidity. Or, if you prefer, stupid randomness.
Read moreWriting is a funny thing. The simple act of sitting down in front of a computer to put a few thoughts into print can lead nearly anywhere and sometimes to extraordinary revelations. For example, I stayed up late one night to compose a few paragraphs for a woman I was flirting with, and by the time all was said and
Read moreIs monogamy in human relationships natural? This author argues no. But, just because it’s unnatural doesn’t mean that it’s therefore unattainable or unrealistic. Monogamy is a choice that we make.
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