Musings on Life and Love

How can we learn to love unconditionally?

I just had an epiphany.

First, a little back-story:

I grew up without a father. I had a mother, and two grandparents, and an uncle, all who loved me unconditionally. Well, I admit, I really only felt that from my mother and grandfather. My grandmother and uncle, I am sure, loved me unconditionally. I just never had as much contact with them to really know for sure.

I grew up knowing I was something special. But as I became an adult, something happened. I was always striving to please everyone, and yet, I always felt like I came up short. My personality, my body language—who knows—put people off. As happens in our lives, I began to have unintentional conflicts with my colleagues and my friends. For some reason, they never understood that I loved them unconditionally.

I was always pissing people off. Read more…

I am married. I have a great husband.  I have a beautiful daughter. There is only one thing missing from my life:

I need a wife.

I want someone to yell at when I get home from work and the house isn’t as clean as I think it should be.

I want someone who takes care of me when I am sick.

I want someone who cooks dinner every night.

I want someone who always gets the groceries done.

I want someone who will pay all of the bills, balance the checkbook and keep the household on budget so that I never have to worry about something going past due, or bouncing a check.

Relationships are hard- life is harder. Man, wouldn’t it just be nice to know that someone was just taking care of everything for you?

Oh, wait. That’s what mom’s are for. I guess it’s our mother’s fault- they did everything for us, and took care of the house, but in turn they taught our generation that the woman is the one who does it all.

I am not saying that my husband doesn’t do anything. It’s just that sometimes I don’t want to have to do my job as a wife. I want a wife to do my job for me.

Guess that’s why people get personal assistants.

And maids.

O.K., I change my request:

I want a million dollars.

What Kalena teaches us

The one thing about having kids is, it sure does put your life into perspective. Just when things are getting us down, she puts a little spark in our day. Here’s what I’ve learned this week:

On Exercise: Who needs a gym when you’ve got a mattress? Jumping up and down on the bed is sure to burn calories. Just don’t fall off the bed- that’s sure to cause five minutes of tears.

On Eating: Eating food is more fun if you make as big of a mess as possible. Swing your spoon around, eat with your hands, and hold the plate up to your face to lick all the remains off. This is especially fun if you have someone around to clean up the whole mess.

On Keeping It Clean: Bath time is the most fun time of all. Take a few toys into the bath with you and play. If you sit there long enough, all the grime just falls off. Much more enjoyable than the usual lather, rinse and repeat.

On Getting What You Want: It’s amazing how far a simple “please oh please” will get you. No one wants to say “no” to you when you are so damn precious. Just remember to say “thank you much” once you’ve gotten what you want. Whining, however, will get you nowhere.

On Being Broke: Read more…